Refusing to do just about ANYTHING you ask

[suzannah-jane]

oi!! THULIMC
HILARIOUS?!!!........IN WHAT CONTEXT?!!! let me tell you it works like crazy, both my son's are considered demi-gods today and it's 'cos i pulled their bluff every time they tried to get up to ---t, and their friends mothers still qoute the times I walked into their kids rooms and I said 'HEY! LET'S HAVE FUN......YOU GRAB THE DRAWERS AND I GRAB THE HANGING SPACE! and before anyone could say BOO! I was destroying everything they had ever been 'taught' - i even had their toy boxes in a heap. What a mess - and today they(kids) still talk about how Auntie S............screwed up their plans to be rebels...........

Thanx for your comment!!!!!!!!

[suzannah-jane]

hey Thulimc
Wasn't knocking your reply. Also believe you have a good grasp on things judging by your previous post/reply to the subject
You are right- why does a child of 4-5yrs old have dvd's? to shut them up and give you free space! and why should the lack of them be punishment? because they are now interfering with your free zone?
as you so rightly say-let them get out there and feel the dirt !!! such wonderful stuff when you are little! Go-go's,bugs,germs and all!!
Doesn't Omo and Vanish sort those problems out anyhow? Spanking? oh yes!...... as a last resort, then they know you mean it !!!!!! before that- be a friend, accept their mistakes and after that say I've had enuf, done it your way for too long, now it's my turn! smack! (not too viscious though) - kind of 'what part of NO do you not understand..........

[thulimc]

Suzannah-Jane

I didn't take any offence what so ever.
I just wrote the first that came to mind when I read yo solution. I must say if I did it I'd have such a jol. I could actually imagine the norty bugger's face as u sat on them in front of their friends.
Anyway thats me, I find some of the strangest things amusing....

[Hilow]

ROUTINE Let her get up in the morning, go to the bathroom, then when She's dressed off to the kitchen for breakfast and speak to her. Tell her it is imprtant to pack her toys away, She will start but you have to be PATIENT. You will have to teach her to be KIND. Good morning with a hug. HAPPINESS, tickle her so that She fells the feeling of joy. Then take her to pick up her toys, but help her and pack it together in a box. You will see it will eventually pay off. If She forgets to perhaps clean-up, simply, show an act of kindness. The most important is to talk to her and explain to her that it is untidy to leave her toys around, then suggest that you will help her to pack them away and then remeind her again that her room is so much neater.TALK TALK and TALK. You can never use the language of violence to bring a message accross. We LOVE too little, we SHOULD LOVE more. Try a different way in which to approach your child, by suggesting little chores but ensure you do them together. It will take time but you will see the end result is great. All the best.

[*smokyj*]